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Kenai, AK 99611
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Anchorage Funeral Home & Crematory
(907) 345-2244 Toll Free (800) 478-4533
1800 Dare Ave. Anchorage, Alaska 99515
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Peninsula Memorial Chapel & Crematory
Kenai (907) 283-3333 ~ Homer (907) 235-6861
Seward (907) 224-5201 ~ Soldotna (907) 260-3333
5839 Kenai Spur Hwy. Kenai, Alaska 99611
Email: pmc@alaskanfuneral.com
Valley Funeral Home & Crematory
(907) 373-3344
151 East Herning Ave. Wasilla, Alaska 99654
Email: vfh@alaskanfuneral.com
Valley Funeral Home - Palmer Chapel
(907) 745-5566
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Martin, Pastor Alice
May 16, 2013
Pastor Alice Martin
May 16, 2013
Pastor Alice Marie Martin, 83, passed away Thursday, May 16, 2013 at Central Peninsula Hospital in Soldotna with her family by her side. Funeral services will be 2 p.m. Tuesday, May 21, at the Apostolic Assembly of Jesus Christ. Pastor Buck Martin will officiate. Viewing will be from 12:30-1:30 p.m. Tuesday at the church. Burial will follow the services at the family cemetery. Pastor Alice was born Oct. 21, 1929 in Dallas, Texas. Her family wrote, “Alice had an intense love for God from an early age. She started teaching Sunday school kids of all ages in her church in San Diego. Her gifts and amazing teaching ability became apparent and she was sent as a Missionary to Japan. She pastored a church there from 1962-70, with her three children by her side.” “She then moved her family to Salt Lake City, Utah, where she pastored a church and met her soul-mate, Buck Martin. They were married in 1974 and soon felt the call to move to Alaska in 1975. There they built and Co-Pastored the Apostolic Assembly of Jesus Christ in Soldotna. She was an incredibly gifted Prophet, Shepherd, Teacher and Counselor, who dedicated her whole life in service to her Lord Jesus, her church, and her family.” “Her powerful ministry touched the lives of hundreds of people, working tirelessly until the last few weeks of her life. A loving and devoted wife, mother and grandmother, she always put the needs of others before her own. She was a passionate gardener and maintained beautiful flower and vegetable gardens that defied the cool Alaska summers. Her beautiful, graceful and compassionate presence will be profoundly missed.” Pastor Alice was preceded in death by her daughter, Camille Morris, brother, Harry Riddle Jr., sister, Ava Sadler, and parents, Harry and Lillie Riddle. She is survived by her husband, Buck Martin of Soldotna; daughter and son-in-law, Cherie and Steve Garrett of Davis, Calif.; son and daughter-in-law, Timothy and Joanne Reed of Soldotna; grandchildren, Rebekah Thorpe-Mayes of Chicago, Ill., Jonathan Thorpe of Arizona, Stephen Grilley of Sacramento, Calif., Daniel Grilley of Temecula, Calif., David Garrett of Davis, Calif., Leah Reed of Soldotna, Sarah Garrett of Davis, Calif.; great-grandchildren, Isabelle and Madelyn Thorpe of Arizona, and Audrey and Aurora Grilley of Davis, Calif. Arrangements were by Peninsula Memorial Chapel in Kenai.
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Jensen , Sandra
May 15, 2013
Sandra Jensen
May 15, 2013
Homer resident, Mrs. Sandra Lauretta Jensen, 71, died Wednesday, May 15, 2013 at her home in Homer. Memorial services will be held at a later date. Mrs. Jensen was born January 26, 1942 in Minneapolis, Minnesota. She graduated high school in Minnesota and in1984 she moved to Alaska, living in Fairbanks, Nome and finally Homer. Before she moved to Alaska she worked as a bartender in Ideal Corners Minnesota for about 5 years. Sandra loved to garden, collect antique tools and she loved reading history about Alaska. The family wrote, “Sandy had wonderful stories to share and a lot of charisma. She enjoyed beach combing and the great outdoors. Sandy was a generous loving mother and friend. She was an awesome cook and she will be dearly missed by friends and family in Minnesota, Fairbanks, Nome and Homer.” She was preceded in death by her parents, Belmont and Lauretta Oddson and siblings, Malcolm and Terry. She is survived by her daughters, Michele Jensen of Pequot Lakes, MN and Denise L. Reed of Fairbanks, AK; granddaughter, Amber Lea Nelson of Fairbanks; great grandkids, Alanna, Kresslynne and Tavis all of Fairbanks; sister, Mary Jane Johnson/Olsen and brother, Jeff Oddson both of Ideal Corners, MN. Arrangements made by Peninsula Memorial Chapel & Crematory. Please visit her obituary and online guestbook at AlaskanFuneral.com.
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Anderson , Thomas
May 7, 2013
Thomas Anderson
May 7, 2013
Thomas J. Anderson, 67, passed away Tuesday, May 7, 2013 after a lengthy illness. A Celebration of Tom's life will be held 4 pm Saturday, May 11, 2013 at Soldotna Bible Chapel, 300 W. Marydale in Soldotna, where Tom was a faithful worshiper. A private burial will be held at a later date. Tom was born in Grand Rapids, Minnesota on October 31, 1945. Tom's father worked for Northwest Airlines so Tom's childhood included first grade in Japan, early education in Seattle where during junior high he met his future wife of 45 years, Lenny (Leanne). Tom moved back to Minnesota when he was a sophomore in high school to complete his education, but maintained a long-distance relationship with Lenny and they were married in 1967. Tom began his teaching career in Minnesota and moved to Soldotna in 1976 to teach at Soldotna Elementary School until his retirement in 1999. Tom loved people, especially young people, and his dedication to and connection with his pupils was a reflection of this love. Tom received a Master's Degree in Education to further his capabilities in the field he was so gifted in. Tom made many friends with coworkers and the parents of his students he loved to teach. Tom loved jokes and had a fantastic sense of humor, much of which he related from his own experiences and often he was the brunt of his own jokes. Tom loved to act and sing and was involved in numerous productions on the Kenai Peninsula. He also encouraged his students to love the Arts and directed annual productions at Soldotna Elementary with staff and students as cast. Tom always portrayed a comical character in these productions. Tom loved the outdoor experiences that Alaska had to offer, and cherished time with his family camping, fishing, biking and clam digging. Tom's family always came first. Tom was a Vietnam Veteran that proudly served his country in the U.S. Army. Tom was preceded in death by his parents and a granddaughter. Tom is survived by his wife Lenny, daughters Kari (Chris) Hudson all of Soldotna and Kelly Anderson (Mike Nails) of Anchorage, three grandchildren whom he loved dearly, Thomas, Rebekah and Jazmyne. He is also survived by sisters Cathy (Chris) Mannick and Pam (Glenn) Nielsen both of Minnesota. In lieu of flowers, the family suggests a donation to the charity of your choice in Tom's name. Arrangements made by Peninsula Memorial Chapel & Crematory. Please visit Tom’s obituary and online guestbook at AlaskanFuneral.com
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Drake , Dawn
April 29, 2013
Dawn Drake
April 29, 2013
Kasilof resident, Mrs. Dawn Ann Drake, 52, died Monday, April 29, 2013 in Goodyear, Arizona after a long battle with cancer. Funeral Services will be held 3:00 p.m. Friday, May 17th, 2013 at The Star of The North Lutheran Church 216 N. Forest Drive in Kenai. Rev. Corbie Cross will be officiating. She will be laid to rest following the services at the Spruce Grove Memorial Park in Kasilof, AK. Mrs. Drake was born May 19, 1960 in Cedar Rapids, Iowa. She received her high school diploma in Homer. In 1974 she moved to Anchor Point where she lived a little while before making Kasilof her home. Dawn enjoyed being a stay at home mom, attending church and exercising. The family wrote, “Dawn Drake, 52, grew her wings and flew to Heaven on April 29, 2013. Dawn loved exercising and warm weather. Her favorite thing to do was go for long walks in downtown Kona, Hawaii. She loved jewelry and online shopping, but more than anything she loved her four grandchildren. Dawn touched many peoples lives everyday. She was full of optimism and hope, up until her very last breath. She surrounded herself by friends and family who cared about her as much as she cared about them. She will live on in the thoughts and the hearts of the people she left behind. Dawn was preceded in death by her father, James Clark; nephew, Ivan Drake; niece, Courtney Clark; and brother, in-law, Mitch Drake. She is survived by her husband, Roger Drake of Kasilof, AK; daughters, Mandy Pierce of Three Forks, MT and Amber Butler of Anchorage, AK; son, Devon Drake of Kasilof, AK and mother, Carol Clark of Anchor Point, AK. Memorial donations may be made to the Cancer Treatment Center of America. Arrangements made by Peninsula Memorial Chapel & Crematory. Please visit Dawn’s obituary and online guestbook online at AlaskanFuneral.com.
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Nielson, Harold
April 29, 2013
Harold Nielson
April 29, 2013
Harold Joseph “Joey” Nielson, 59, passed away, Monday April 29, 2013 at the Elmendorf Hospital in JBER, Alaska. Funeral services were held 12:00 p.m., Thursday, May 9, 2013 at the Anchorage Funeral Home, 1800 Dare Ave. in Anchorage. Bishop Kao Bailey officiated. Graveside services followed the ceremony with military honors performed by the JBER Honor Guard at the Fort Richardson National Cemetery. Harold was born January 24, 1954 Harold Joseph & Edith (Wharton) Nielson in North Las Vegas, NV. His father was a notorious outlaw who died in a car wreck in 1972. When his mother Edith was pregnant with him, the law tried to capture his father. Edith and her two sons fled to the desert and lived in a cave for three months. Shortly after, they moved to Las Vegas where Harold was born and the family split up. Edith had the three children, Michael, David and Harold. Edith met C.T. Lee and was soon married. Two additional sons, Robert and James followed. The family moved to an Adobe house in Mesquite, AZ in 1962 where the family began again. After a few years, the family moved to Los Angeles, CA; life was good, with frequent trips to the beach. Harold was active in church, received straight A’s in school and at the age of 14 he received his Eagle Scout Award. He was known for his quick wit. His brother Robert told of a story when Harold at the age of 16 had a girlfriend who came to visit them in the neighborhood where the family lived. She was a beautiful blond and her transportation was a horse. Everyone in the neighborhood was impressed especially the two older brothers who attempted to steal his girlfriend. The family had a pet, Collie. At the age of 16, Harold departed Los Angeles and moved back into his grandmother’s Adobe house in Mesquite, AZ. He lived there about a year; during this time he was having it out with his cousins who were notorious outlaws and cattle rustlers. On one evening his cousins and him shot a cow. Someone had seen them. The cow was in the trunk of the car. At a road block the police (at gunpoint) arrested them. Harold was the driver and had clean clothes. His cousins had cow blood and hair all over them. Harold took the rap, his cousins were set free and he was sent to jail. He began cooking for the jail personnel. They liked his food so much that he was kept there a while after his sentence was up. At age 17, Harold joined the military and served as a cook. He sent all of his money home to his mother. He received an honorable discharge. During his time in Vietnam his biological father had died. Harold took a short leave and buried him in Hurricane, Utah. While Harold was in the military his family moved to Anchorage in 1978. When he returned home the family opened a café on Muldoon called “Edi the Drive In.” The family operated the café until about 1979. Harold then managed two Tesoro stations, one which was where the current Lowe’s is on O’Malley. Next he took a job in Cordova working at a Hotel called the Reluctant Fisherman. He began working in the Bush. It was in Bethel that he met Judy Bobby. He brought her home to Anchorage. They had three sons, Jeremy, JoJo and Jeff. Jeremy died of an apparent allergic reaction in the Hospital. Judy Bobby trained sled dogs owned by her father. A man named Dick Welmars borrowed the dogs and ran them in the first Iditarod. He won, although no credit was ever given to Judy. Harold and his family lived a subsistence life. Harold would drive anything that would run, mostly vehicles he got from his brother, Bob. Later in life he worked in the family upholstery shop owned by Bob from about 1980 until 2012. Harold had many opportunities to live in assisted living homes as his health declined. He would check in and soon after go back to living in the cabin or with Bob. He would rather die than not be able to be with family and friends. His wife Judy Bobby had a brain tumor in 2008 and was moved into an assisted living home in the Muldoon area. Harold loved to camp and hike. He also was a drummer and loved to draw with pencils and give pictures away. He is survived by three brothers, Michael and Jackie Lee of Big Lake, AK, Robert Lee of Anchorage and David Nielson of St. George, UT; two sons, Jeff Nielson age 21 and JoJo age 27 both of Anchorage; three grandchildren; wife, Judy Bobby of Anchorage; many nephews and nieces. Arrangements were cared for by the Anchorage Funeral Home. Please visit Harold’s obituary and online guestbook at www.AlaskanFuneral.com
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Kiel , Ronald
April 29, 2013
Ronald Kiel
April 29, 2013
Longtime Kenai resident, Mr. Ronald Albert Kiel, 78, died Monday, April 29, 2013 at his home with his family by his side. Visitation time will be held from 2:00 to 4:00 p.m. Saturday, May 4th, 2013 at Peninsula Memorial Chapel, 5839 Kenai Spur Hwy. Mr. Kiel was born April 6, 1935 in Kalamazoo, Michigan. Ronald and his family moved to Kenai, Alaska in 1969, where he was a businessman, general contractor, Alaskan hunting guide and commercial fisherman. The family wrote, “Ronald was a loving husband, father, and grandfather. He was a compassionate man, dedicated to helping his family and friends. Ron was an avid hunter, classic car enthusiast, pilot, and gun collector. He loved to build, and took pride in his log cabin on the bluff overlooking Cook Inlet. As a general contractor, Ron built many projects around the Peninsula, including Captain Cook Park in Nikiski.” He was preceded in death by his parents, Albert and Eleanor Kiel. He is survived by his wife, Rose Kiel of Kenai; daughter, Rhonda Belen of Mattawan, Michigan; sons, Nate Kiel of Kenai and Matt Kiel of Lake Havasu City, AZ; son in-law, Larry Belen of Mattawan, MI; daughter in-laws, Gina Kiel of Kenai and Lisa Facciuto of Lake Havasu City, AZ; grandsons, Jason Belen, Ryan Belen, and Nate Belen all of Mattawan, MI; granddaughters, Emily Belen of Mattawan, MI and Kassi Kiel of Kenai; grandson, Kegan Kiel of Kenai; granddaughters, Kelsi Rose Kiel of Kenai, Alexandria Kiel of Kenai, AK and Adrianna Kiel of Kenai, Alaska; grandson, Drew Facciuto of Lake Havasu City, AZ; granddaughters, Somer Roney and Sherise Jackson both of Kenai and ten great- grandchildren. Arrangements made by Peninsula Memorial Chapel & Crematory. Please visit Ron’s obituary and online guestbook at alaskanfuneral.com.
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Watson, Margaret
April 28, 2013
Margaret Watson
April 28, 2013
Mrs. Margaret H. Watson, 88, passed away Sunday, April 28, 2013 at Lluminada’s Assisted Living Home in Anchorage, after a long batttle with Alzheimer’s. Visitation will be held 3:00 to 5:00 p.m. Wednesday, May 8, 2013 at the Anchorage Funeral Home, 1800 Dare Ave. in Anchorage. Margaret will be laid to rest next to her husband at the Anchorage Memorial Park Cemetery with graveside services to be announced at a later date. Margaret was born November 28, 1924 to James D. Myers, Sr. & Mary M. (Rothenberger) in Downey, CA. On January 17, 1942 she married Charles “Wayne” Watson, Sr. Their first son, Wayne Jr. was born in November 1942 and their second son, Allen was born in February 1948. They raised their family in Bellflower, CA until April 1961 when the family moved to Anchorage, Alaska where she and her family have lived ever since. During her time in Alaska she worked in retail clothing sales at Marguerite’s Downtown Dress Shop, Woolworth’s, J.C. Penny’s and Lamont’s where she retired. Margaret was an active member of the Moose Lodge, the American Legion Auxiliary, AM Vets Auxiliary and the VFW Auxiliary in the 1980’s and 90’s. Her hobbies included knitting, crocheting and intricate needle work, which she enjoyed giving to family and friends. Margaret was an avid bingo player until her husband passed away in May of 1983. Margaret was preceded in death by her husband, Charles Watson, Sr.; son, Allen Watson; grandsons, Mark & Dusty Watson. She is survived by her brother, James D. Myers, III; son Wayne and his wife, Linda; grandchildren, Monty and wife, Cindy, Christie Watson and her husband, Ryan Jaramillo, Charles “Charlie” Watson; Allen’s family, Jennifer and her husband, Allen Macleod and Mikel Watson; and great-granddaughters, Hayley Watson, Lindsey and Leah Macleod. The family requests, in lieu of flowers, donations be made in Margaret’s name to the Alzheimer’s Resource Center, 1750 Abbott Road, Anchorage, AK 99507. Arrangements were cared for by the Anchorage Funeral Home. Please visit Margaret’s obituary and online obituary at www.AlaskanFuneral.com
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Thomas , William
April 20, 2013
William Thomas
April 20, 2013
Longtime Soldotna resident, Mr. William Reese Thomas, 75, died Saturday, April 20, 2013 at his home in Soldotna with his family by his side. Memorial services will be held 2:00 p.m. Thursday, April 25, 2013 at The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day-Saints, 159 Marydale Drive in Soldotna. Stake President Olaf Hartvigson will be officiating. Mr. Thomas was born February 23, 1938 in Price, Utah. He graduated high school and attended a year of college. Bill served in the U.S. Army for a short while before being honorably discharged. He lived in Anchorage when he first moved to Alaska in 1957. After moving to Kenai he worked for the Kenai Power Company and most recently worked as an oil field worker for Chevron Oil until he retired. Bill was a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day-Saints in Soldotna. He taught Art, was a volunteer fireman and EMT and a Boy Scout Master. Bill loved painting, wood carving and his Ham Radio. The family wrote, “William Thomas touched the lives of all who met him. He had a great love for the outdoors and spent much of his time hunting in the wilderness with pack horse and fishing. He taught art at remote Alaskan Villages and his legacy continues as his painting and relief carvings are spread across the world. After surviving cancer, he spent many years as a missionary for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day-Saints. He loved the Lord and he exemplified Jesus Christ’s example by spending his life in service to others.” He was preceded in death by his parents, Levi and Cora Thomas; brother, Ron Thomas and son-in-law, Dee Jay Palmer. He is survived by his wife, Judith Pickett Thomas; daughter, Misty Palmer; son, Wade Thomas and his wife, Susan; daughter, Hillary Bergeron and her husband, Robert; granddaughter, Jessica Smith and her husband, Austin; grandsons, Jared Thomas and Chris Palmer; granddaughters, Nicole Thomas, Rachel Thomas, Kate Palmer and Amanda Bergeron; great grandson, Oliver Smith; brother, Keith Thomas. Arrangements made by Peninsula Memorial Chapel & Crematory. Please visit Bill’s obituary and online guestbook at alaskanfuneral.com.
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Houglum , Howard
April 15, 2013
Howard Houglum
April 15, 2013
Anchor Point resident, Mr. Howard Orvis Houglum, 64, died Monday, April 15, 2013 at his home with his family by his side. Memorial services will be held at a later date. Mr. Houglum was born May 18, 1948 in Faribault, Minnesota. He graduated from Cook County High School in Grand Marais, Minnesota. He worked for Hedstroms Lumber from 1967 to 1982. After moving on he began working for the Department of Natural Resources Fisheries division up until he retired in 2005. Howard moved to Anchor Point in 2005. Howard loved fishing, flying, hunting and spending time with his grandchildren. He was an exceptional fisherman. The family wrote, “His family was first on his mind, the ones here and the ones back in Minnesota. Howard loved teaching his sons to fish and bow hunt. He was a kind, caring and honest man. Howard built an ultra light airplane in his house. He also loved to fly his 1946 Luscombe tail dragger. He was known for the best 1 wheel landings. Howard was a very skilled pilot and his dream was to move to Alaska and fly again, but health issues made him give up that dream.” He was preceded in death by his son, Jeffrey Houglum; parents, Orvis and Hazel Houglum. He is survived by his wife, Elizabeth Houglum of Anchor Point; daughter, Gretchen Panka of Superior, WI; son, Johnathan Houglum of Anchor Point; son in-law, Tim Panka of Superior, WI; daughter in-law, Lindsay Caldwell of Anchor Point; granddaughter, Cheynne Sorlie of Duluth, MN; grandson, Dakota Sorlie of Grand Marais, MN; granddaughter, Mya Houglum of Anchor Point; grandson, Tanner Houglum of Anchor Point; brothers, Gerald Houglum of Grand Marais, MN and Sheldon (Lynetta) Houglum of Grand Marais, MN and sister, Sharon (Robert) Bailey of Moose Lake, MN. Also numerous nieces and nephews. Arrangements made by Peninsula Memorial Chapel & Crematory. Please visit Howard’s obituary and online guestbook at alaskanfuneral.com.
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Piaskowski, Robert
April 9, 2013
Robert Piaskowski
April 9, 2013
Robert Melvin Piaskowski, 89 passed away peacefully at his home on April 9th, 2013 after a brief battle with cancer. He was surrounded by his loving family. The Funeral Mass will be at 12:00 p.m., Saturday, April 20, 2013 @ St. Benedict's Catholic Church 8110 Jewel Lake Road in Anchorage. Archbishop Roger Schwietz, O.M.I. will officiate. The Rosary will precede the service at 11:00 a.m. followed by visitation until 11:45a.m. A reception will follow the services at the church. Robert was born June 4, 1923 in Alpino, Michigan. His Alaskan adventure began in 1935 when his family moved to Palmer as part of the Matanuska Valley Colonist migration. In 1941, he married his wife of 71 years, Shirley Mortensen, at Holy Family Rectory. God blessed them with 11 children: Robert, Donald, Joseph, William, Kathleen, Shirleen, Cynthia, David, Elizabeth, Christine, and Daniel. Robert served in the Army from 1944-1946, and then worked as a (highly trained and decorated) Liquid Fuel Technician for the Air Force from 1951-1975. After retiring from civil service, he did many jobs, using his skills and Air Force training as a certified Carpenter, as a jack of all trades, while specializing in residential and commercial remodeling. He homesteaded twice in the Anchorage area: First off of the Old Seward Highway (near Dowling Road) and finally settling a 5 acre tract near Lake Otis & East 80th. Robert and Shirley spent many years without the luxury of running water or electricity. Robert, his family, children, and friends built the original house by hand. Shirley's only request was that the home had cathedral ceilings, which he erected with the support of his Jeep because he did not have access to any modern day machinery. Their home was destroyed by a fire in 2001. A new one was built in its place with Robert overseeing all aspects of construction. Robert loved the majesty of Alaska. Every Fall, his vacation time was spent taking his family camping, hunting, fishing, and jeeping. He enjoyed getting out of town and heading to Kings River. He loved being outside: ice-skating with Shirley, gardening at his home, and blueberry picking on Flattop Mountain. Along with raising his large family, Robert enjoyed homemade apple pie, playing pinochle, dancing, and, on a daily basis, tinkering in his workshop. His loss of eyesight never slowed him down. Robert was a faithful auxiliary member of the Legion of Mary and was very active in his Catholic Parish of St. Benedicts. Robert was preceded in death by his son William a decorated soldier who died in the Vietnam War, and his eldest son, also named Robert in 2001. He is survived by his wife Shirley, sisters Mary Rastetter and Jeanette Adams, 9 children, 28 grandchildren, 28 great-grandchildren, and 1 great-great grandchild. Memorial donations will be accepted at the Blessed Sacrament Monastery, 2645 E 72nd Avenue where he and Shirley attended daily Mass for decades. Arrangements were cared for by the Anchorage Funeral Home. Please visit Robert’s obituary and online guestbook at www.AlaskanFuneral.com
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Dresnek, Marilyn
April 6, 2013
Marilyn Dresnek
April 6, 2013
Marilyn Ann Dresnek passed away peacefully at home on Saturday April 6th 2013 surrounded by her loving family at the age of 70. Funeral services will be held 2:00 p.m., Friday, April 12, 2013 at St. Mark’s Lutheran Church 3230 Lake Otis Pkwy. in Anchorage. A Reception with a potluck will immediately follow. Marilyn was born on May 7th 1942 the daughter of Bertha (Vamstad) and Morgan Berg in Madison, Wisconsin. She graduated in 1960 from Mt Horeb High School in Wisconsin. Marilyn moved to Golden Colorado in 1969 and worked for Coors, it was by far her most favorite job. She moved to Colorado Springs where she resided and worked until 1989. Marilyn then moved to Eagle River Alaska to assist with the birth of her first of many grandchildren. During her time in Alaska, Marilyn worked for Anchorage School District as a Bus Attendant and attended Charter College. One year later she met and married the love of her life Mike Dresnek. Marilyn enjoyed, sewing, gardening, four-wheeling, fishing, camping, reading, but most of all she enjoyed time-shared with her very large, extended family and dogs. Marilyn also had an incredibly curious side to her that was the driving force behind her desire to travel and visit many states so she could enjoy their wonders and watch other folks also enjoy those wonders. Her favorite Alaskan camping spot was the water front camping area in Seward, where her and Dad enjoyed watching the boats come and go and listening to the surf on the beach. Sadly her traveling was cut short due to her extended illness. Marilyn is survived by her husband Michael Dresnek of Chugiak Alaska; sister in-law, Jeannette Berg of Blanchardville Wisconsin; daughters, Sherry Price (Gary Johnson), Kerry Perkins (Wade), Marilyn Hoffmann (Bryan), Crystal Sterling (Jeremiah), Katie Orozco (Robert), Kelly McCorry and Kathleen McCorry (Laurie); sons, Jason Dresnek and Joseph McCorry (Martin); many grandchildren and great-grandchildren. Her parents and all of her sibling’s preceded Marilyn in death. Special thanks to Cheryl and Janae from Providence Hospice. Arrangements were cared for by the Anchorage Funeral Home & Crematory. Please visit Marilyn’s obituary and online guestbook at www.AlaskanFuneral.com
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Bell, Lois
April 6, 2013
Lois Bell
April 6, 2013
Longtime Alaskan Mrs. Lois Bonnie Bell, 95, passed peacefully in her sleep at home Saturday April 6, 2013, in Soldotna, Alaska. Funeral service will be held 2:00 PM Thursday, Apr. 11, at the Peninsula Memorial Chapel officiated by Pastor Frank Alioto. Burial will follow at the Soldotna Cemetery in Soldotna, Alaska. Lois was born in Amistad, New Mexico April 19, 1917 to Eli Thomas Hobson and Cora May Hobson. She grew up with 12 siblings. Lois was married to William Edward Bell on March 20, 1934. They raised 5 children in Eugene, Oregon. Mrs. Bell earned an LPN license while in Oregon and moved to Soldotna in May, 1972. She worked as a nurse at the newly built Central Peninsula General Hospital until her retirement. She lived alone in her own home in Soldotna until the time of her death. Lois was a Christian and attended the Soldotna Brethren Assembly. One of her favorite verses was, 1 John 5:11-13. “And this is the record that God hath given to us eternal life, and this life is in his Son. He that hath the Son hath life, and he that hath not the Son of God hath not life. These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God; that ye may KNOW that ye have eternal life, and that ye may believe on the name of the Son of God”. Lois loved to tell about her younger years of growing up in New Mexico, where she got to go on a cattle drive with her brothers at the age of 13. She also, at the age of 14, was asked to drive the school bus home, if the driver didn’t get home from his travels that day. Sure enough, she got to drive the children home! Lois & her husband & family also, were in the great dust bowl, of 1935! Lois was a good cook and also sewed much of her children’s clothing. In Oregon she canned quarts of peaches, pears, tomato’s and applesauce to help feed her family! Lois took painting classes at the Kenai Peninsula College, under Boyd Shafer & enjoyed it greatly. She leaves many works of art. Mrs. Bell was preceded in death by her 12 siblings, her husband William Edward in 1964, son, Wayne Bell in 1987, and great-granddaughter, Halie Burcham in 1994. Lois is survived by her children and their spouses, Louetta and George Waldrip, Ron and Cecile Bell, Lynda and Eddie Burcham, Sherri and Rick Warren; daughter-in-law, Sandra Bell; 18 grandchildren, 37 great-grandchildren, and 14 great-great-grandchildren. Arrangements were by Peninsula Memorial Chapel in Kenai. Please sign her online guestbook at www.alaskanfuneral.com.
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Wadkins , Chuck
April 2, 2013
Chuck Wadkins
April 2, 2013
Nikiski resident, Mr. Charles (Chuck) N. Wadkins 61, passed Tuesday, April 2, 2013 due to injuries sustained in an accident. Memorial services will be held 3 p.m. Sunday, April 14, 2013 at the American Legion Post #20, 902 Cook Ave. in Old Town Kenai. Mr. Wadkins was born August 31, 1951 in Muskegon, MI to William (Bill) and Audrey Wadkins. He was a long time resident of Nikiski, where he cut the timber and built his year-round home by hand in the “Grey Cliffs” area. He was an avid hunter, fisherman, builder and gardener with quite the green thumb. He enjoyed playing his guitar and singing. He was a Viet Nam veteran. Chuck lived life to the fullest and his last moments were spent doing what he loved. He will be sadly missed and forever remembered by all. He was preceded in death by his mom, dad and brother William (Bill) D. Wadkins. Survived by his wife of 16 years, Linda Laughridge of Nikiski, AK; daughter Brandi (Stewart) Monson and known to his 3 grandchildren, Rachel, Caleb & Hannah, of Independence KS as “Papa 'Laska”; sisters Lynda (Bob) Thornton, of Zephyr Hills, FL; Char (Ray) Pencarinha, of Gainesville Ga, and Deanna "Dee" (Eugene) Nakamura, of Maui HI. He was "Gampa Guck" to Madison, Levi, Cody and Skyler of Nikiski, as well as multi-generations of nieces & nephews. He leaves behind numerous friends and long-time companion cat, Mississippi. Arrangements are with Peninsula Memorial Chapel & Crematory. Please visit Chuck’s obituary and online guestbook at alaskanfuneral.com.
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Sprague, Richard
April 2, 2013
Richard Sprague
April 2, 2013
Richard Lewis Sprague, 96, died on Tuesday, April 2, 2013 at South Peninsula Hospital in Homer, Alaska. He had suffered from, and many times rallied through heart problems; he succumbed to congestive heart failure. Richard was born in Oregon, Wisconsin on June 12, 1916, to Lewis and Elsa Sprague. During his high school years they moved to the family farm in McFarland, WI, where he helped his parents work the farm until his enlistment in 1941. He was preceded in death by his parents, sister Wilma, and brother Harry. Staff Sergeant Sprague married Evelyn Mackesey of Madison, WI, in a Catholic ceremony at Luke Field, AZ, on May 26, 1943. Richard had enlisted in the Army Air Force in 1941, and served as a flight mechanic during military assignments including time during World War II, the Korean War and Vietnam, then his final four-year assignment at Elmendorf AFB Alaska where he was retired at age 55 in 1971 with the rank of Chief Master Sergeant. Richard and his wife, Evelyn, then scouted out retirement areas and decided to return to Homer, Alaska, and make their home here. The ample opportunities for hunting, fishing, and all the outdoor pursuits he loved were a big draw. During Richard's active duty years his family traveled with him or followed to assignments — to Japan for two tours, Germany, and various stateside bases. The couple had five children. In his Homer retirement, Richard became Captain in a charter fishing business, first working for other organizations, then with his own Grizzly Charters operation, till his second retirement in 1990. During those years he continued making enduring friendships with sport fishermen who made recurring trips, from Alaska and from other states, to fish with him in Kachemak Bay and Cook Inlet. He was also active in the Coast Guard Auxiliary and the Elks Club through the years. Richard is survived by his wife, Evelyn, four children: Carolyn Sprague, Patricia Wick (Robert), Robert Sprague (Katharine), Joanne Sprague; two grandchildren, Barbara Hall and Johnny Sprague, and one great grandson, Keegan Hall. Daughter Margaret Sprague Pulliam (Roy) preceded him in death. A Memorial Mass will be held at St. John the Baptist Catholic Church in Homer at 11 a.m. on Thursday, April 11, 2013.
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Larson , Mabel
April 2, 2013
Mabel Larson
April 2, 2013
Kenai resident, Mrs. Mabel D. Larson, 92, died Tuesday, April 2, 2013 at Central Peninsula Hospital in Soldotna, Alaska. Memorial services will be held in the summer of 2013. Mrs. Larson was born July 20, 1920 in Nampa, Idaho. She graduated high school in Idaho. In 1950 she worked as a Barber in Yakima, Washington for many years. In 2006 she moved to Kenai to be near her daughter and family. Mabel began quilting in her late 80’s and continued to enjoy it up until this last year. The family wrote, “She and her husband danced nearly every weekend for 57 years. She loved working in her garden and flowers. She was very much loved by family and friends. She always showed her love and pride for her family. She would take time to talk to us and she was there when we needed her.” She was preceded in death by her husband, Arnold Larson who died in 1996 and sister, Vera Wolfe who died in 2011. She is survived by her daughter, Karen Hinkle of Kenai; son in-law, T.J. Hinkle of Kenai; grandson, Dan Hinkle and his wife, Michaele of Tampa, FL; grandsons, Mark Hinkle of Stevenson, WA and Jason Hinkle and his wife, Catherine of Kenai; daughter, Sharen Clark and her husband, Ron of Sunnyside, WA; grandson, Ron Snow of Spokane, WA and granddaughter, Julie Snow of Portland, OR; son, Jerry Larson and his wife, Dolly of Gulf Breeze, FL; grandson, Chris Larson and his wife, Lawanna of Kenai, Alaska; granddaughter, Jennifer Thomas and her husband, Jason of Savanna, Georgia; sister, Evah Davis who is 99 years old of Portland, Oregon and many great-grandchildren. Arrangements made by Peninsula Memorial Chapel & Crematory. Please visit her obituary and online guestbook at alaskanfuneral.com.
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Flynn, Cora
March 31, 2013
Cora Flynn
March 31, 2013
Cora Evans Flynn passed away March 31, 2013 at Alaska Native Medical Center with family by her side. A private family service was held April 3, 2013 at Anchorage Funeral Home. Cora will be taken home to Galena where she will be laid to rest along the banks of the Yukon she so loved. Cora was born March 13, 1941 in Galena, Alaska to Charlie and Elizabeth Evans. She grew up in Galena and attended high school at Mt. Edgecumbe, then attended Western Washington University. She worked for the FAA in Galena where she met her husband, Thomas J. Flynn. Together they raised five children in King Salmon where they lived for nearly 40 years until 2008 when health reasons forced a move to Chugiak. In her youth, hunting and fishing on the Yukon was a way of life that Cora embraced. She even ran her own trap line and dog team. Whoever went hunting or fishing with Cora did not come back empty handed! Cora was an extremely strong, patient woman who was very devoted to her family. She was a stay-at-home mother until her children were older. She then became a Community Health Aide in King Salmon, a position in which she excelled and was greatly respected. Cora was a great cook and much family time was spent in the kitchen. She loved to sew and especially enjoyed quilting. Bowling was also a favorite pastime and she could play a mean game of Scrabble. Over the years Cora gave effortlessly of herself to support her children and their friends in the many school activities. Despite health issues in her later years Cora was an inspiration, providing a sense of strength to all who knew her. She was preceded in death by her husband Thomas; son Michael; grandson Evan Burroughs; and several siblings. Survivors include daughters, Lanai Smart, Lori Burroughs and husband Don; sons, Thomas Jr. and wife Jaclyn, Charles and wife Holly; she leaves grandsons, Andrew and wife Heather, Darien, Aaron, Richard, Nathan; granddaughters, Charlotte and Mychal; she also leaves three brothers, two sisters and their families. Arrangements were cared for by the Anchorage Funeral Home & Crematory. Please visit Cora’s obituary and online guestbook at www.AlaskanFuneral.com
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Lamb, Toni
March 31, 2013
Toni Lamb
March 31, 2013
Toni Kay Darnell Lamb passed away peacefully Easter morning, March 31, 2013 after a brief battle with cancer. She was surrounded by her loving sister, husband and children at the Cancer Treatment Center of America in Goodyear, AZ. Memorial services will be held 2:00 p.m., Saturday, April 13, 2013 at the Brayton Ward, Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints Church, 13161 Brayton Drive in Anchorage. Toni was born July 18, 1949 in Tulsa, OK to Clarence and Afton Darnell. She was introduced to her husband by his sister in Sept. 1968. They married six months later on April 18, 1969. They shared 44 wonderful years together. Toni was a loving sister, wife and mother who raised five beautiful children. She was blessed with many talents, but her love and compassion for others is what really made her shine. She was an active member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and she served in many callings. She had to cut short her service mission she was serving with her husband Dave, when she became ill. The world lost an amazing woman but heaven gained a beautiful angel. She was loved by so many and will be dearly missed. Toni was preceded in death by her brothers Robert and Ricky Darnell, her mother Afton Reeve Darnell, and her father Clarence Darnell Jr. She is survived by her husband David C. Lamb Jr., her sister Peggy Darnell Echohawk Kanno, her children, Kimberly Knudsen (Christian), Jared Lamb, Deborah Osborn (Elijah), Amanda Ramos (J.R.) and Carolyn Easton (James) along with her 9 grandchildren that she adored. In lieu of flowers donations can be made to AlaskaUSA Acct # 1754630. Donations will go to help cover funeral costs and the proceeds will be donated to the Cancer Treatment Center of America to help patients win the fight against cancer. Local arrangements were cared for by the Anchorage Funeral Home. Please visit Toni’s obituary and online guestbook at www.AlaskanFuneral.com
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Lyons, Ellen
March 31, 2013
Ellen Lyons
March 31, 2013
Anchorage resident, Mrs. Ellen Christine (Schmid) Lyons, 60, passed away March 31, 2013, at her home in Anchorage. A celebration of life will be held 11:00 a.m., Friday, April 5, 2013 at the Anchorage Funeral Home, 1800 Dare Ave. in Anchorage. Ellen was born November 23, 1952 to Frederick “Fritz” Eugene & Leona Jean (Hughes) Schmid in Corning, CA. Ellen studied at the University of Washington and received a Bachelor of Science and had earned Magna Cum Laude in Medical Technology. A beloved mother, wife, sister, daughter and friend, Ellen was a role model graduating from college in her 30s. She first moved to Alaska in 1969 and met her husband, Bruce at the airport bar at the Anchorage Airport. Bruce and Ellen married at Big Lake on August 11, 1972. Soon thereafter, they went to California for a bit and had their children, Joanna in 1976 and Greg in 1978. Returning in 1981, Ellen lived in Anchorage ever since. She worked at Providence Alaska Medical Center in Anchorage for 15 years. Ellen loved to experiment and create works of art in stained glass, glass fusing, beading, painting, photography and needle point. Her beading was sold in Homer at an art gallery. Ellen was generous with her art and took delight in creating that “perfect” item for her friends and family. Ellen really loved ocean waves and big redwood forests. Her heart was always in Northern California in Mendocino with fond memories of her parents and sister. Ellen was preceded in death by her parents; cousin, Laverne Love; and brother in-law, Ed Salm. She is survived by her husband of 40 years Bruce Lyons of Anchorage, AK; son and fiancée, Greg Lyons and Ophelia Yang of Anchorage, AK; daughter and son in-law, Joanna Lyons-Antley & David Antley of Klamath Falls, OR; sister, Karen Schmid of Anchorage, AK; brother and sister in-law, Martin & Christy Schmid of Redding, CA; nephew, Tanner Schmid of Redding, CA; niece, Becky Kolb of Anderson, CA; and cousin, Danielle Love of San Diego, CA. Memorial contributions may be made to KAKM (PBS Station) www.alaskapublic.org/kakm. Arrangements were cared for by the Anchorage Funeral Home & Crematory. Please visit Ellen’s obituary and online guestbook at www.AlaskanFuneral.com
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Edgington , Lyle
March 29, 2013
Lyle Edgington
March 29, 2013
Soldotna homesteader Lyle C. Edgington, 90, passed away Friday, March 29, 2013 at Central Peninsula Hospital. Services will be 4 p.m. Friday, Apr. 5, at Peninsula Memorial Chapel in Kenai. Burial will be at Spruce Grove Memorial Park in Kasilof. Military honors will be provided by V.F.W. Post 10046 and American Legion Post 20. Lyle was born Nov. 5, 1922 in Lewiston, Idaho to Frank and Fannie May Edgington. He was a World War II veteran who served in the South Pacific in New Guinea and Manila. Lyle came to Alaska in 1946 and established his homestead on Longmere Lake in 1947. All his children were born and raised in Alaska. He was a 50 year member of the Operating Engineers Union Local 302, working various places all around Alaska as a crane operator. Lyle was a member of the V.F.W. He was preceded in death by his brother Murl Edgington. He is survived by his daughter, Sherry Sayman; granddaughter, Anna Marie Sayman, both of Soldotna; his stepchildren, Theresa McLeod of Texas, Susan Powell of Wyoming and Robert Powell; his former wife and mother of his children, Wilma Woodford of Wyoming; nephew, Gary Edgington of Washington and a niece, Cheryl Kelly of Oregon. Arrangements were by Peninsula Memorial Chapel in Kenai. Please visit Lyle's obituary and online guestbook at alaskanfuneral.com.
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Barber , A. Pearl
March 27, 2013
A. Pearl Barber
March 27, 2013
Longtime Alaskan and Kenai Peninsula resident, A. Pearl Richards (Kingsley) Barber went home to be with her Lord on March 27, 2013 at Harbor Lights House Assisted Living in Soldotna. A memorial service celebrating her life will be held at Soldotna Bible Chapel, 300 W Marydale Ave. on Sunday, March 31 at 4:00 p.m. following a viewing at 3:30 p.m. The service will be officiated by Pastor John Rysdyk. Pearl was born September 28, 1923 in Hominy, Oklahoma. She was the second of 13 children born to Trevy M. and Eunice O. Richards. She grew up during the Great Depression, moving from town to town with her family as her father’s work dictated. They eventually settled in Winfield, Kansas where Pearl attended and graduated from high school in 1941. Pearl earned an Associate’s degree from Central College, McPherson, Kansas in 1944. She began working as a “Rosie Riveter” at Boeing in Wichita, Kansas and advanced to the position of draftsperson. Her intricate mechanical drawings illustrated the assembly manual for the B-29 bomber. Pearl married Clovis H. Kingsley in 1946, after he returned from WWII. They came to Valdez, Alaska in 1951 and began homesteading on the Kenai Peninsula near Ninilchik in 1953. She mothered three daughters in the primitive conditions of early Alaskan homesteading -- without electricity, running water, or modern conveniences. In 1963 Pearl returned to the Midwest, working as a secretary in her hometown of Winfield, KS until 1966. She was then hired as a cashier/bookkeeper by Greenville College, Greenville, IL, where she worked until retirement in 1993. She returned to her beloved Alaska, where she was finally able to pursue her creative interests, including acrylic and oil painting (portraits, still lifes, and landscapes) and illustrating. She also enjoyed needlework, sewing, ceramics, creative writing, photography, and was known within her family as the champion Scrabble player and jigsaw puzzle worker. Pearl is survived by three daughters Martha Kingsley of Harrison, AR; Chlorinne Kingsley of Linden, NC; and Sherlyn Anderson of Kenai, AK; grandchildren Terry Steiner and Dale Thomas of Soldotna; Tammy Drake of Kenai; Benjamin Walton of Orlando, FL; Nathan Walton of Manitou Springs, CO; great grandchildren Heather and Elijah Drake of Kenai; Tyler and Joshua Walton of Orlando; Ellie Wolfkeil-Walton of Manitou Springs, CO; sisters Lois Bogner, Winfield, KS; Nell Clark, Springfield, MO; brothers Jim and Beryl Richards, San Antonio, TX, and by many nephews and nieces, She was preceded in death by two husbands; her parents; siblings Paul, Don, Joyce, Mary, Frankie, David and two infants; plus infant great grandchildren Wesley Walton and Little Finn. Arrangements were by Peninsula Memorial Chapel in Kenai. Please visit her online guestbook at www.alaskanfuneral.com
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Planning a Funeral
Most of us are not prepared to plan and carry out a funeral ceremony for someone we love. And so much of the information available on this critically important subject fails to focus on what is most important: having a personalized, meaningful funeral that helps families and friends begin the healing process of mourning after the death of someone we love.
This section includes information that will help provide insights necessary to help you and your family create a meaningful funeral experience that both honors the life of your loved one and starts you on the path to healing from your loss. Some of the content on these pages is adapted from a website called www.MeaningfulFunerals.com and the teachings of Dr. Alan Wolfelt, a noted grief expert.
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Meaningful Funerals
"You can have the experience and miss the meaning."
- T.S. Elliott
Meaningful Funerals
Meaningful funeral ceremonies make a significant difference in how families channel their grief toward health and healing. During the funeral, the community comes together and responds to the reality that someone has died, and also to the reality that those remaining will need support, compassion, love, hope, and understanding. The funeral encourages you to think about the person who has died and to explore the meaning of their life and the ways in which they touched the lives of others.
The remembering, reflecting and choices that take place in the planning and conducting of the funeral service are often an important part of the process of grief and mourning. And ultimately, this process of contemplation and discovery creates a memorable and moving funeral experience for all who attend.
Why Have a Funeral?
When we experience the death of someone we love, a funeral service fills several important needs. First, it provides for the dignified and respectful care of the person and special tribute to their life. Equally important, the funeral service helps survivors face the reality of death, which is the first big step toward taking grief from the inside and allowing us to express it on the outside through mourning. Together, close friends and relatives can lend support and consolation when they're needed most.
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What Makes a Funeral Meaningful?
No matter what kind of funeral ceremony you are planning, it helps to understand the components of a meaningful funeral. Meaningful funerals are made up of different parts that, when combined together, make for an incredibly emotional experience for you, your family and friends.
Meaningful Choices
Helping You and Your Family Create a Meaningful FuneralThis is a naturally difficult time, compounded by the fact that you are faced with many decisions that must be made as you begin to plan the funeral. You may feel overwhelmed by these decisions. When you are able to make informed choices, you are empowered with the important information needed to plan a meaningful funeral.
This is not the time to deny your need to mourn and embrace painful feelings of grief in the coming days. You may feel deep sadness as you plan this funeral and begin to acknowledge the reality that someone who you love has died. But when all is said and done, you will feel deep satisfaction that you helped plan a meaningful tribute or ceremony for someone who meant so much to your own life, and you will be on the path to a healthy grieving process.
Making Informed Funeral Choices
After selecting a funeral home, you and your family will choose the type of funeral service to hold, what will happen to the body and where it will be laid to rest. How a body will be cared for after death is an important decision. Whether you choose burial or cremation, you can use elements of ceremony to honor the life of your loved one and to allow you and your family to say goodbye in a meaningful way.
Key Choices
Key Choices Needed to be Made for a Meaningful Funeral As you begin to think about the funeral and the many options you have, you may be faced with the conflict of honoring the wishes of the person who died as well as your own wishes as survivors. While it is natural to want to meet the requests of the person who died, do consider changes that will be helpful to you, your family and friends. Begin a Family ConversationIt is often helpful to have a family conversation before going to see a funeral director. This can be a time for expressing your grief together as well as a time for some initial decision-making. Try as best you can to include everyone in the discussion. No one should feel left out.
The Arrangement ConferenceYou may have already scheduled a time to meet with your funeral director to help you plan the funeral. This meeting is called the “arrangement conference.” During the arrangement conference, the funeral director will explain all of the choices available to you and your family, help you make decisions to create your unique funeral, and gather important information about the person who died to complete necessary documents. Above all else, the funeral director will assist you in both arranging for and carrying out a meaningful funeral.
What Kind of Funeral Service Will You Have?You can choose from a variety of funeral service types and formats. Some people think funerals must conform to traditional ways, but there is no one right way to have a funeral. Just as grief has many dimensions and is experienced in different ways by different people, funerals are also unique. A funeral should simply be fitting for the person who died and the family and friends who survive them. This is an opportunity to be creative and to share an honest expression of your most heartfelt values. There are no rigid rules that need to be followed, but there are guidelines that can help you if you are unsure how you might proceed.
Burial Considerations
Planning a meaningful funeral for a loved one is a ritual that almost all of us will encounter at some point in our lives. As you consider the various aspects of a funeral where burial is the final disposition, there are several elements that you can and will need to select in order to create a touching tribute for your loved one. These things will also provide comfort to those who are living as you pay your final respects.
Service and Ceremony
Service and CeremonyChoosing Burial
Planning a meaningful funeral for a loved one is a ritual that almost all of us will encounter at some point in our lives. As you consider the various aspects of a funeral where burial is the final disposition, there are several elements that you can and will need to select in order to create a touching tribute for your loved one. These things will also provide comfort to those who are living as you pay your final respects.
The Burial Committal ServiceWhen burial is chosen, the graveside ceremony is the final opportunity to say goodbye. Accompanying a body to its final resting place and saying a few last words brings a necessary feeling of closure to the funeral process. Families are often deeply touched by this ceremony, and its memory resonates for years. A meaningful committal service not only helps us acknowledge the reality and finality of the death, it also symbolizes the separation that the death has created. It is an essential ingredient of a meaningful funeral experience.
Direct BurialA direct burial is when there is no funeral service, but instead simply final disposition of the body by the funeral home.
A word from Dr. Alan Wolfelt
If you are considering direct burial, I plead with you to reconsider. Honoring the life and death of the person who died with some sort of ceremony - no matter how brief, how small or how informal - will help your family acknowledge the reality of the death and begin to heal. When no ceremony is held, it is as if the life and death of the person who died had no significance to anyone. Also keep in mind that you may still hold a committal service at the gravesite should you choose direct burial.
Think carefully about the many options available to you and your family. Slow down and plan. It is through planning that a meaningful funeral experience is created. And do remember that funeral directors, clergy, celebrants and close friends who have done these things before can all be valuable resources to you. You are not alone!
Burial Products and Personalization
Burial Products and PersonalizationCaskets
Casket Choices
The casket typically becomes the visual and emotional focal point of the funeral service, and just as important, serves as the final resting place for your loved one. The casket you choose can be more than just a burial vessel - it can become a touching reminder of all that made your loved one special. When selecting a casket, the first decision is typically the casket material - wood or metal.
The casket material chosen is often selected because it reflects the personality of your loved one. Wood is traditionally valued for its warmth and natural beauty, while metal is treasured for its strength, durability and elegance. Various factors impact the value of the finished product, including the species of wood or type of metal. Additional considerations include the design of the casket such as shape, color, interior fabric and hardware. Each of these can make a statement about the beloved individual, as can the features that allow you to create personal tributes to your loved one. These choices affect the overall appearance of the casket, as well as its value.
Metal Caskets
Metal CasketsMetal caskets, including those made from bronze, copper, stainless steel and steel, are known for their unique finishes. Bronze and copper are among the most durable and beautiful of metals; both are naturally non-rusting. Stainless and carbon steel caskets come in a variety of grades, gauges, styles and finishes. Many metal caskets contain features that help resist the entrance of outside elements.
Bronze & Copper CasketsBronze and Copper caskets combine quality construction and beautiful finishes. Many families choose these materials because they are superior to all other casket materials in strength, durability and naturally non-rusting qualities. Tools, ornaments and other artifacts from these materials can be seen in museums dating back as far as 5,000 years. A wide variety of styles, colors and features in bronze and copper are available, allowing you to select a casket that is suited to individual preferences.
Stainless SteelStainless steel is known for its quality and longevity, making it a valued material for casket construction. It is available in different grades, which are determined by the amount of chromium and nickel content — the higher the content, the higher the quality and strength of the steel and its corrosion-resistant qualities.
Carbon SteelCarbon steel caskets are available in multiple grades, for example (from thickest to thinnest): 16 gauge, 18 gauge and 20 gauge. While not as durable or resistant to corrosion as stainless steel, copper or bronze, a wide selection of colors, finishes and personalization features make these caskets an attractive choice.
Wood Caskets
Wood CasketsHardwood caskets include a variety of species: mahogany, walnut, cherry, sycamore, maple, oak, pecan, select hardwood and pine. Families who choose these caskets appreciate the qualities of natural wood. The warmth, beauty and personality it brings to fine furniture is also well suited for the construction of caskets. Some wood caskets are manufactured from solid specie wood, and others are constructed with high-quality veneers.
MahoganyMahogany is used extensively for high-grade furniture and cabinetry. It has a well-earned reputation because of its attractive grain pattern and beautiful natural luster.
WalnutConsidered a wood of beauty, walnut boasts a striking grain color and pattern. Walnut is warm and inviting, dignified and elegant, and engenders a pride of ownership. Having a natural lustrous patina, walnut is also known for its strength and durability.
CherryCherry is one of the most popular hardwoods. Because of its strength and stability, cherry is often used for burial caskets, paneling and gun stocks. Its rich, warm look and creamy, reddish color make it attractive.
MapleMaple is valued for its strength, wear resistance and beauty, making it a popular choice for flooring, especially for heavily trafficked areas such as a ballroom. But it's also a popular material used in making caskets. Maple is evenly textured with a natural luster. While the grain is usually straight, it can also be wavy or curly.
PecanPrized for the delicious pecan nut, pecan trees also produce a strong and heavy hardwood. Pecan is light in color and is often found in the construction of beautiful furniture and architectural paneling.
OakOak is a popular furniture and flooring favorite. This durable wood is used for doors, paneling, home furnishings and caskets. Oak has a prominent grain pattern that can be either tight or coarse, depending on the species.
PinePine has been popular since colonial times. There are nearly 100 species of pine, ranging in color from pale yellow to light brown. Though not technically classified as a “hardwood,” it is considered to be a durable wood, usually straight grained with an even texture.
HardwoodHardwood is a cost effective, yet attractive, solid wood product made from select wood species including poplar and cottonwood.
VeneerVeneering has been a standard in the fine furniture industry for more than 50 years. Veneered wood caskets incorporate quality craftsmanship with premium wood veneers and engineered wood composites that create a look and finish of warmth and beauty that many families are drawn to with solid wood caskets.
Personalize with Burial Casket Features
Specially designed features are available with many caskets today, and serve as another visual way to create an impactful and emotional expression during the service. There are numerous features and flexible ways to personalize a casket that reflect the personality and interests of your loved one. One such feature incorporates artistic designs that can pay tribute to an individual's life of service, passions and interests. These designs can be attached to the corners of many different types of caskets. Another unique feature available on select caskets is a special drawer where you can display cherished mementos during the service and place private farewell messages that can then remain in the casket with your loved one at their final resting place.
Several unique panel designs for the lid of the casket are also available, and each one offers its own dignified approach to serve as a special place and focal point for families to recall a life story and highlight the personal facets that made their loved one special. There are select caskets with panels that allow you to display artistically crafted medallions that can serve as a visual eulogy, allowing you to highlight the most meaningful roles and relationships of your loved one's life.
Some caskets include a pleated panel that enables you to display cherished photos and personal mementos near your loved one. Insertable panels are also available that include embroidered designs with tributes focused on relationships, service, passions and interests. In some cases, you can design or customize your own embroidered panel if standard offerings do not deliver that final personal touch. Some of the same embroidery designs can also be applied to other casket interiors, such as the casket overthrow or pillow.
Burial Casket Features that Encourage RemembranceMany of the designs and features used with the casket can also serve as personal memorial keepsakes, such as the medallions or corner designs. In order to allow healing to begin, it's important to accept that the everyday relationship with the loved one has moved from physical reality to memory. Many people find it helpful to have tangible reminders of their loved one, including items and symbols that relate to the final celebration of life. Keepsakes of various types, such as medallions, can also be engraved with the loved one's name and dates, or special designs that create even more meaningful and touching remembrances for current and future generations.
Ask your funeral director for more information on what is available to help personalize and encourage remembrance during the funeral of your loved one. They can guide you through the selection process and help you make informed choices.
Remembrance JewelryDesigned to hold a lock of hair, flower petals, earth from the gravesite or a small portion of cremated remains, keepsake jewelry is a unique way to hold a loved one close with a fashionable and lasting remembrance.
Burial VaultsBurial Vault Choices
Burial vaults are lined units that enclose the casket when it is placed at the gravesite and are designed to prevent the weight of soil and heavy equipment from damaging the casket. There are no laws that require the use of outer containers, but cemeteries often require their use, as it reduces the chance that soil over the grave will settle and helps with general gravesite maintenance and appearance.
Burial vaults are available in a variety of materials including metal, concrete and composite materials.
Unlined Outer Burial ContainerUnlined outer burial containers, or grave liners, are usually constructed of wood or concrete and may improve the appearance of the grave. These products provide a barrier that keeps soil and debris away from the casket during the closing of the grave. Some grave liners also provide structural protection from the weight of soil and heavy equipment. As these products are unlined, they provide no protection to the casket from soil and/or water making their way past the outer container unit.
Metal VaultMetal vaults are available in a variety of materials, including bronze, copper, stainless steel, galvanized and aluminum. These two-piece enclosures offer protection from the weight of soil and cemetery equipment, as well as keep the elements away from the casket. Some metal vaults feature beautiful ornamental details and can be personalized to honor your loved one.
Concrete VaultConcrete vaults are outer closures that provide structural protection from the weight of soil and heavy equipment and offer additional protection from soil reaching the casket. Concrete vaults are available in many styles including undecorated concrete finishes, metal wrapped tops and interiors, and simulated wood grain or natural stone finishes. Concrete vaults can typically weigh more than 2,000 pounds and can require additional costs for transport and placement.
Polymer VaultBurial vaults constructed of non-porous polyethylene and polypropylene material provide the benefits of being lightweight, impact-resistant and water-resistant. Polymer vaults can be constructed in multiple layers for added strength and durability. Their ease of handling also reduces cemetery labor costs and the need for heavy equipment during transportation and gravesite placement. Vault styles are available that can be personalized to help honor your loved one.
The Living Memorial ProgramBatesville's Living Memorial® Program is a unique and special way to honor the memory of a loved one. When you select a Batesville® burial product or an Options® cremation product, arrangements are made for a tree seedling to be planted as a living tribute - at no additional cost to you.
Seedlings are planted in national forests in cooperation with the U.S. Forest Service, The Canadian Forestry Association, The Grand River Conservation Foundation, and other international organizations to re-establish woodlands destroyed by forest fires, blight and other natural disasters. You will receive a special letter that verifies a tree has been planted where the need is greatest.
Cemetery Space, Monuments and Grave Markers
Cemetery Space, Monuments and Grave MarkersCemetery Space
Perhaps your family already owns a cemetery plot where the person who has died will be buried. If not, maybe you've noticed a nice local cemetery. Your funeral director will know which cemeteries are nearby and can help you purchase cemetery plots appropriate for your needs.
Traditionally, families have chosen to bury their loved ones in a cemetery. Entombment, which is the placement of the casketed body in an above-ground structure called a mausoleum, also takes place at a cemetery. When a casket is entombed, it is placed in an enclosure (called a crypt), and the front is usually sealed and faced with either marble or granite.
Many families choose burial or entombment at a nearby cemetery because it allows them to visit the gravesite as often as they like. This helps them continue to feel close to the person who died, while still acknowledging the death.
Because so many aspects should be considered when purchasing a cemetery plot, you may want to consider discussing the options in advance. Questions you may want to consider include:
- Does the plot meet my religious requirements?
- Are there any restrictions I need to consider based on the type of monument or burial vault?
- Does the plot include perpetual care and maintenance?
- Are plots available in the same location to provide for burial of the entire family?
Also called headstones, grave markers are used in cemeteries to memorialize and identify the gravesite of the person who has died. You may want to personalize the grave marker by including a poem, a drawing or a short phrase that defines the person who died.
Monuments and grave markers are available in a variety of materials, including natural stone, concrete and bronze. Styles can range from very simple to ornate, as single markers or companion monuments.
Sharing Memories
Sharing MemeoriesMemorial Websites
When someone we love dies, we often feel the need to share their story and the story of our loss with family, friends and our extended communities. A recent trend has been to memorialize loved ones by creating a website that honors their memory and mourns the loss.
The website can be created to house online video tributes and even guestbook memories collected at the funeral from family and friends. Some funeral homes offer this as a service, or you may be technologically savvy enough to build your own. Your imagination is your only limit to sharing memories and honoring your loved one.
Keepsake BooksFriends and relatives often share memories, stories, photos and condolences in guest books, both at the funeral and on the funeral home's website. At the funeral, invite people to write down a memory of the person who died. Ask children if they would like to write a letter or draw a picture for the person. Their “goodbyes” can then be saved for the keepsake book or even placed in the casket alongside the body. Many funeral homes offer keepsake book publishing services that collect and document these important memories.
Video TributesA video tribute is a unique way to personalize a memorial service - giving you and your family the opportunity to pause and reflect on the life of the person you knew and love. These touching montages can consist of music, photos, memorabilia, or newspaper articles that take viewers through the life of the person who has died.
Your video tribute can be played during the funeral service, during a visitation, or at any other time you and your funeral service professional decide upon. Many funeral homes can also post your video tribute to their website so that others can view it at any time. Tributes can also be made into DVDs or saved electronically for your family to keep. Your funeral home may offer this service or can recommend a local vendor who specializes in this area.
Cremation Considerations
When choosing cremation, it is important not only to capture the memories and celebrate the spirit of your loved one, but also to provide healing through gathering together, paying tribute and celebrating a life well lived.
Keep in mind that cremation does not limit your ability to spend time with the body of your loved one or hold a meaningful ceremony. You may have a visitation period and a funeral service prior to the cremation. Or your family may spend time privately with the body before cremation, followed by a public ceremony a day or two later with the urn present. You may want to consider keeping your loved one's body present for the funeral ceremony as it often encourages more expressions of grief and authentic mourning.
What Happens During Cremation
Cremation is another form of disposition or handling a body after death. However, many people don't know what happens during cremation.
Cremation takes place in a carefully maintained facility known as a crematory or crematorium. The funeral home may or may not have its own crematory on site, but your funeral director can take care of all arrangements either way.
Within the crematory is a special cremation chamber. The body is placed in a cremation container or casket and positioned inside the cremation chamber. Once the container or casket is in the cremation chamber, the door is tightly sealed. The operator then turns on gas jets, which create intense heat that reduces the body to bone fragments. This process takes approximately 2-3 hours.
After the cremation, the remains are collected and processed to the consistency of sand or a finer ash. The white or grayish remains, often called cremated remains at this stage, are then sealed in a transparent plastic bag along with an identification tag. The bag weighs about 5 lbs. and will often be returned to the family in a selected urn, which can then be buried, placed in a niche inside a columbarium, taken home or transported for scattering. Additionally, the cremated remains can be separated and placed into multiple urns, keepsakes or even jewelry specifically designed as a final resting place.
Cremation is a respectful, dignified process chosen by many families. However, some faiths discourage or prohibit cremation. If you plan to hold a religious funeral ceremony or have the remains buried in a church cemetery, check in advance to make sure there are no issues.
Service and Ceremony
Choosing CremationThis journey marks a new beginning; now is the most important time to come together and recount the fond memories that tell the story of your loved one. A variety of choices are available to create a loving memorial, bringing together family and friends for a final goodbye. Meaningful ceremonies with personalized memorials can be as unique as the loved one being remembered
When choosing cremation, the ceremony is a way to inform the community of a loved one's passing, tell their story and celebrate their life. A ceremony is most meaningful when it reflects your loved one's relationships, interests, and the moments you shared. Memorializing your loved one when choosing cremation may include one or any combination of the following options.
ConventionalFriends and family gather for a tribute prior to cremation, often with the decedent present, which draws support and allows family and friends to say goodbye.
MemorialThis gathering of friends and family following cremation often features the memorial urn as the ceremony's centerpiece and allows family and friends to recall memories and support one another.
PrivateA small gathering and informal family farewell takes place in a private setting and offers the chance to say goodbye, allowing family and friends to recall memories and support one another.
Direct CremationA direct cremation is when there is no funeral service or memorial service, but instead simply final disposition of the body by the funeral home or memorial society.
A word from Dr. Alan Wolfelt
If you are considering direct cremation, I plead with you to reconsider. Honoring the life and death of the person who died with some sort of ceremony - no matter how brief, how small or how informal - will help your family acknowledge the reality of the death and begin to heal. When no ceremony is held, it is as if the life and death of the person who died had no significance to anyone. Also keep in mind that you may still hold a committal service at the gravesite or crematory should you choose direct cremation.
Think carefully about the many options available to you and your family. Slow down and plan. It is through planning that a meaningful funeral experience is created. And do remember that funeral directors, clergy, celebrants and close friends who have done these things before can all be valuable resources to you. You are not alone!
Cremation Caskets and Containers
The selection of a cremation casket is just as important as the selection of the ceremony and will complement the tribute designed for the one being remembered. Before cremation, during the ceremony, and at the time of cremation, the casket or container is the resting place that gives dignity to your loved one. It may also be where you will see your loved one for the last time.
Cremation CasketCremation caskets are made of wood and available in a wide variety of styles that are suitable for services with a visitation, viewing or a gathering held prior to the cremation. The warmth, beauty and personality wood brings to fine furniture is well suited for the construction of caskets. Depending on your selection, cremation caskets can be personalized to fit your needs with accessories like custom tribute panels or custom embroidered interiors.
Wood Selections for Cremation Caskets
Hardwood caskets include a variety of species: mahogany, walnut, cherry, sycamore, maple, oak, pecan, select hardwood and pine. Families who choose these caskets appreciate the qualities of natural wood. The warmth, beauty and personality it brings to fine furniture is also well suited for the construction of caskets. Some wood caskets are manufactured from solid specie wood, and others are constructed with high-quality veneers.
MahoganyMahogany is used extensively for high-grade furniture and cabinetry. It has a well-earned reputation because of its attractive grain pattern and beautiful natural luster.
WalnutConsidered a wood of beauty, walnut boasts a striking grain color and pattern. Walnut is warm and inviting, dignified and elegant, and engenders a pride of ownership. Having a natural lustrous patina, walnut is also known for its strength and durability.
CherryCherry is one of the most popular hardwoods. Because of its strength and stability, cherry is often used for burial caskets, paneling and gun stocks. Its rich, warm look and creamy, reddish color make it attractive.
MapleMaple is valued for its strength, wear resistance and beauty, making it a popular choice for flooring, especially for heavily trafficked areas such as a ballroom. But it's also a popular material used in making caskets. Maple is evenly textured with a natural luster. While the grain is usually straight, it can also be wavy or curly.
PecanPrized for the delicious pecan nut, pecan trees also produce a strong and heavy hardwood. Pecan is light in color and is often found in the construction of beautiful furniture and architectural paneling.
OakOak is a popular furniture and flooring favorite. This durable wood is used for doors, paneling, home furnishings and caskets. Oak has a prominent grain pattern that can be either tight or coarse, depending on the species.
PinePine has been popular since colonial times. There are nearly 100 species of pine, ranging in color from pale yellow to light brown. Though not technically classified as a “hardwood,” it is considered to be a durable wood, usually straight grained with an even texture.
HardwoodHardwood is a cost effective, yet attractive, solid wood product made from select wood species including poplar and cottonwood.
VeneerVeneering has been a standard in the fine furniture industry for more than 50 years. Veneered wood caskets incorporate quality craftsmanship with premium wood veneers and engineered wood composites that create a look and finish of warmth and beauty that many families are drawn to with solid wood caskets.
In recent years, casket manufacturers have addressed the need for larger-sized caskets. Available in many of the same materials, colors, finishes and designs as in traditional-sized caskets, oversize caskets offer a more comfortable fit for your loved one when required.
Cremation ContainersCremation containers are made from both composite and solid wood components and are fully combustible. These are most appropriate when a private viewing has been scheduled.
Memorial Urns
Memorial Urn ChoicesThe urn or personalized memorial will become the final resting place for your loved one. The selection of the urn typically complements the final placement, whether buried in a cemetery, placed in a niche, or placed as a treasured touchstone in the home or garden. It can also become an ideal medium to facilitate ceremonial scattering. The urn or personal memorial you select will provide dignity, respect and a lasting tribute.
Final Placement ChoicesUrns are available in a wide variety of styles and materials. What's right for you will depend on your choice of final placement as well as personal tastes.
Burial
With the growing number of cremations, more families are choosing to bury the cremated remains of their loved ones as a way to provide a permanent place for future visitation. Many families choose burial or entombment at a nearby cemetery because it allows them to visit the gravesite as often as they like. This helps them continue to feel close to the person who died, while still acknowledging the death. Your funeral director will know which cemeteries are nearby and would best meet your needs. He or she can help you purchase cemetery plots appropriate to your needs.
Monuments and Grave MarkersAlso called headstones, grave markers are used in cemeteries to memorialize and identify the gravesite of the person who has died. To personalize the funeral service, you may want to personalize the grave marker. You can include a poem, a drawing or a short phrase that defines the person who died.
Monuments and grave markers are available in a variety of materials, including natural stone, concrete and bronze. Styles can range from very simple to very ornate, as single markers or companion monuments.
Cemetery PlotsCemetery Burial
Perhaps your family already owns a cemetery plot where the person who has died will be buried. If not, maybe you've noticed a nice local cemetery. Your funeral director will know which cemeteries are nearby and can help you purchase cemetery plots appropriate for your needs.
Traditionally, families have chosen to bury their loved ones in a cemetery. Entombment, which is the placement of the casketed body in an above-ground structure called a mausoleum, also takes place at a cemetery. When a casket is entombed, it is placed in an enclosure (called a crypt), and the front is usually sealed and faced with either marble or granite.
Many families choose burial or entombment at a nearby cemetery because it allows them to visit the gravesite as often as they like. This helps them continue to feel close to the person who died, while still acknowledging the death.
Because so many aspects should be considered when purchasing a cemetery plot, you may want to consider discussing the options in advance. Questions you may want to consider include:
- Does the plot meet my religious requirements?
- Are there any restrictions I need to consider based on the type of monument or burial vault?
- Does the plot include perpetual care and maintenance?
- Are plots available in the same location to provide for burial of the entire family?
Niche
A niche is a recessed compartment typically found in a columbarium or mausoleum to hold an urn. The niche may be open-front, protected by glass (this option allows viewing of the urn), or closed-front, faced with bronze, marble or granite. Generally, the urn containing the cremated remains is placed inside the niche and the front is sealed. Many urn styles can be placed in a niche.
Ceremonial Scattering
Complete or ceremonial scattering is a symbolic release of your loved one back into the world. This can be done in a variety of ways. Biodegradable urns made of unbleached pressed cotton can facilitate underground or water scattering. Some urns are designed for ceremonial scattering and are therefore lightweight, easy to open and safe to hold at multiple angles.
Home Display
You may want to memorialize your loved one in your home after cremation. Many urn styles provide a touching and discreet way to hold the memory of your loved one close. Urns are available in natural stone like marble, a variety of metals such as bronze and copper, and beautiful wood finishes like oak, cherry or mahogany. Cast acrylic and cast bronze statuary art urns are also available in a variety of styles. Products for memorials in the garden or landscape, including wind chimes, birdbaths and sundials, are also an option.
Personalizing and Customizing the Memorial
To add a heartfelt and individual touch, your loved one's personalized life story message can be applied throughout the ceremony or gathering, as well as to the container, memorial urn and keepsakes you choose. Smaller urns, keepsakes, and remembrance jewelry can be given to family members and close friends.
Urn Vaults
The urn or personalized memorial will become the final resting place for your loved one. The selection of the urn typically complements the final placement, whether buried in a cemetery, placed in a niche, or placed as a treasured touchstone in the home or garden. It can also become an ideal medium to facilitate ceremonial scattering. The urn or personal memorial you select will provide dignity, respect and a lasting tribute.
Urn vaults are lined units that enclose the urn when it is placed at the gravesite. They are designed to prevent the weight of soil and heavy equipment from damaging the urn and environmental protection. There are no laws that require the use of urn vaults, but cemeteries often require their use as they prevent the grave from settling and help with general gravesite maintenance and appearance.
Urn vaults are available in a variety of materials, including cultured granite, metal, concrete and composite materials or a combination of materials. Urn vault options also include a large selection of interiors, including smooth or textured finishes as well as fabric choices. Urn vault styles are available that can be personalized to help honor your loved one.
Sharing Memories
Memorial WebsitesWhen someone we love dies, we often feel the need to share their story and the story of our loss with family, friends and our extended communities. A recent trend has been to memorialize loved ones by creating a website that honors their memory and mourns the loss.
The website can be created to house online video tributes and even guestbook memories collected at the funeral from family and friends. Some funeral homes offer this as a service, or you may be technologically savvy enough to build your own. Your imagination is your only limit to sharing memories and honoring your loved one.
Keepsake BooksFriends and relatives often share memories, stories, photos and condolences in guest books, both at the funeral and on the funeral home's website. At the funeral, invite people to write down a memory of the person who died. Ask children if they would like to write a letter or draw a picture for the person. Their “goodbyes” can then be saved for the keepsake book or even placed in the casket alongside the body. Many funeral homes offer keepsake book publishing services that collect and document these important memories.
Video TributesA video tribute is a unique way to personalize a memorial service - giving you and your family the opportunity to pause and reflect on the life of the person you knew and love. These touching montages can consist of music, photos, memorabilia, or newspaper articles that take viewers through the life of the person who has died.
Your video tribute can be played during the funeral service, during a visitation, or at any other time you and your funeral service professional decide upon. Many funeral homes can also post your video tribute to their website so that others can view it at any time. Tributes can also be made into DVDs or saved electronically for your family to keep. Your funeral home may offer this service or can recommend a local vendor who specializes in this area.
Keepsakes & Remembrance Jewelry
Keepsake urns are smaller versions of full size urns and are manufactured to hold a small portion of cremated remains, a lock of hair or ceremonial flowers. Keepsake urns allow you to share your loved one's cremated remains with family and close friends.
Designed to hold a small portion of cremated remains, a lock of hair, flower petals, or earth from the gravesite, keepsake jewelry is a unique and elegant way to hold a loved one close with a fashionable and lasting remembrance. Available in men's and women's styles, consider selecting a matching piece for family members or friends to share a special and lasting bond.
Living Memorial
Batesville's Living Memorial® Program is a unique and special way to honor the memory of a loved one. When you select a Batesville® burial product or an Options® cremation product, arrangements are made for a tree seedling to be planted as a living tribute - at no additional cost to you.
Seedlings are planted in national forests in cooperation with the U.S. Forest Service, The Canadian Forestry Association, The Grand River Conservation Foundation, and other international organizations to re-establish woodlands destroyed by forest fires, blight and other natural disasters. You will receive a special letter that verifies a tree has been planted where the need is greatest.
Guides and Resources
When a loved one dies, grieving family members and friends are often confronted with dozens of decisions about the funeral.
This section is designed to give you an overview of frequently asked questions as well as provide additional support, grief resources and other important information that may help you at this difficult time.
FAQs to Planning a Meaningful Funeral
FAQs to Planning a Meaningful FuneralAs you and your family begin the funeral planning process, a number of questions will surface that you will need further insight on in order to make nformed decisions. Below please find a number of frequently asked questions and clarifications on misconceptions of funerals that may help you as you plan a meaningful funeral to honor the unique life of your loved one.
Why do I need to plan a funeral for my loved one?One of the most important reasons for planning a meaningful funeral is that it helps you and your family focus your thoughts and feelings on something positive. The funeral encourages you to think about the person who died and explore the meaning of their life and the ways in which they touched the lives of others.
The remembering, reflecting and choices that take place in the planning and conducting of the funeral service are often an important part of the process of grief and mourning. And ultimately, this process of contemplation and discovery creates a memorable and moving funeral experience for all who attend.
What makes a funeral meaningful?Meaningful funerals are made up of different parts (music, readings, visitation/reception, eulogy/remembrance memories, symbols, procession, committal service and gathering) that, when combined, make for an incredibly meaningful experience for you, your family and friends. Even among different faiths and cultures, funeral ceremonies throughout North America often include many of the same elements. Your faith or culture may have its own variations on these elements and you should be encouraged to follow them as you see fit.
Who should I turn to for help to plan a meaningful funeral?The funeral home and its staff play a critical role in the planning and conducting of a meaningful funeral. They are the people with the training and expertise you will rely on in the days leading up to the funeral. Their advice, compassion, attention to detail and willingness to personalize the ceremony will greatly influence your funeral experience.
What kind of funeral service should I have?You can choose from a variety of funeral service types and formats. Some people think that funerals must conform to traditional ways, but there is no one right way to have a funeral. Just as grief has many dimensions and is experienced in different ways by different people, funerals are also unique. A funeral should simply be fitting for the person who died and the family and friends who survive. This is an opportunity to be creative and to share an honest expression of your most heartfelt values. There are no rigid rules that need to be followed, but there are guidelines that can help you if you are unsure how you might proceed.
How do I ensure the funeral is personalized?The funeral service you plan should be as special as the life you will be remembering. Here are a few ideas:
- Write a personalized obituary.
- Create a column in the guest book for people to jot down a memory after they sign their name.
- Display personal items and hobby items on a table at the visitation.
- Show a DVD or slide show of the person's life during the funeral.
- Select flowers that were meaningful to the person who died.
- Use a lot of music, especially if music was meaningful to the person who died or means something to your family.
- At the funeral, invite people to write down a memory of the person who died. Appoint someone to gather and read the memories aloud.
- Create a personalized grave marker.
Your family must choose not only the type of funeral service to hold but also what will happen to the body and where it will be laid to rest.
Embalming is how the funeral home temporarily preserves the body of the person who died so it can be viewed by the family. Embalming also allows a number of days to elapse before burial and cremation, thus giving family and friends time to prepare and gather for the funeral.
The body of the person who died is the most important symbol to include in the funeral service. Whether present in an open or unopened casket, the body serves as the emotional focus for mourners and helps them acknowledge and embrace their pain. When a body or cremated remains are buried or scattered, there is a “place” for families to go when they want to feel close to their loved one.
Families who have spent time with the body have said it has helped them come to terms with the death and begin to transition from life before the death to life after the death. Although it can be emotionally painful, time spent with the body is often helpful to many people.
If my loved one is being cremated, what happens during cremation?Cremation is another form of disposition or handling a body after death. However, many people don't know what happens during cremation.
Cremation takes place in a carefully maintained facility known as a crematory or crematorium. The funeral home may or may not have its own crematory on site, but your funeral director can take care of all arrangements either way.
Within the crematory is a special cremation chamber. The body is placed in a cremation container or casket and positioned inside the cremation chamber. Once the container or casket is in the cremation chamber, the door is tightly sealed. The operator then turns on gas jets, which create intense heat that reduces the body to bone fragments. This process takes approximately 2-3 hours.
After the cremation, the remains are collected and processed to the consistency of sand or a finer ash. The white or grayish remains, often called cremated remains at this stage, are then sealed in a transparent plastic bag along with an identification tag. The bag weighs about 5 lbs. and will often be returned to the family in a selected urn, which can then be buried, placed in a niche inside a columbarium, taken home or transported for scattering. Additionally, the cremated remains can be separated and placed into multiple urns, keepsakes or even jewelry specifically designed as a final resting place.
Cremation is a respectful, dignified process chosen by many families. However, some faiths discourage or prohibit cremation. If you plan to hold a religious funeral ceremony or have the remains buried in a church cemetery, check in advance to make sure there are no issues.
Should I involve our children in the funeral?Most of the rituals in our society focus on children. Unfortunately, the funeral ritual, whose purpose is to help mourners begin to heal, is often not seen as a ritual for kids. Too often, children are not included in the funeral because adults want to protect them.
Funerals are painful, but children have the same rights and privileges to participate in them as adults do.
Here are ways to appropriately include children:
- Help explain the funeral to them - Tell children what will happen before, during and after the ceremony. Give as many specifics as they seem interested in hearing.
- If the body will be viewed either at a visitation or at the funeral itself, let the child know this in advance. Explain what the casket and body will look like. If the body is to be cremated, explain what cremation means and what will happen to the cremated remains.
- Find age-appropriate ways for children to take part in the funeral - grieving children feel included when they can share a favorite memory or read a special poem as part of the funeral. Shyer children can participate by lighting a candle or placing something special in the casket (a memento, a drawing, a letter or a photo).
- Understand that children often need to accept their grief in doses, and that outward signs of grief may come and go. It is not unusual, for example, for children to want to roughhouse with their cousins during the visitation or play video games right after the funeral. Respect the child's need to be a child during this extraordinarily difficult time.
Glossary of Funeral Terms
Glossary of Funeral TermsAs the planning begins, you may be introduced to new words and terms that are associated with the funeral planning process. We have provided a quick glossary for your reference.
- Arrangement conference - The meeting with the funeral director in which you discuss your wishes for the funeral and the disposition of the body
- Burial - Also called interment, earth burial at a cemetery is the most traditional method for final disposition of the body
- Celebrant - A person who provides personalized services to a family to create a meaningful ceremony or ritual during a life transition
- Columbarium - An above-ground structure for final disposition of cremated remains
- Committal service - A brief graveside ceremony held with the casket or urn present before it is lowered into the ground
- Cremation - A form of disposition that involves reducing the body through intense heat to cremated remains
- Crypt - An above ground burial site in a mausoleum
- Direct cremation - Cremation without a funeral or memorial service
- Embalming - A method of preserving the body for a number of days following the death, allowing the family to view the body and hold the funeral service on a day that is convenient for out-of-town friends and relatives
- Entombment - Placement of the casket in an above-ground structure called a mausoleum
- Funeral - The ceremony that honors the end of a person's life
- Grave liner - An unlined outer burial container
- Honorarium - The fee typically paid to a clergyperson or celebrant for officiating the funeral ceremony and to musicians or soloists for their contributions
- Mausoleum - A small building in a cemetery that is like a burial plot above the ground
- Niche - One of a number of recesses in the wall of a columbarium where the urn containing cremated remains is placed
- Obituary - A notice in the newspaper that announces the death to the community, summarizes the person's life and invites readers to attend the funeral and/or make memorial contributions in the name of the person who died
- Pallbearers - The people who carry the casket from the ceremony to the hearse and from the hearse to the gravesite
- Urn - A small vase-like container specially designed for holding cremated remains
- Vault - A concrete or metal container into which the casket is placed before burial at a cemetery
- Visitation - A scheduled time for family and friends to see the person who died, perhaps for the final time
Pre-Planning
PreplanningThe Advantages of Planning Ahead
The idea behind planning ahead is simple. One day, a great deal of vital information about you or a loved one will be needed by your family and anyone whose responsibility it is to assist them. Those who plan ahead can be assured that, not only will their personal wishes be fulfilled, but other unnecessary difficulties will be avoided.
Both you and your loved ones can benefit when funeral arrangements are made well ahead of need. It can be beneficial to include your immediate family in those plans, ensuring those left behind are aware of your wishes and able to plan a meaningful funeral that will help them begin their mourning. By discussing plans in advance, you can take all the time necessary to make decisions about cremation or burial, type of ceremony and other funeral elements.
You may want to discuss your thoughts and decisions with your family and a funeral service professional. The Meaningful Funerals Companion Guide can be used to capture your wishes and biographical information in advance. Upon completion, simply store it in a safe place with your other important documents.
Recommended Reading
Recommended ReadingMost of us are not prepared to plan and carry out a funeral ceremony for the death of someone we love. And so much of the information available on this critically important subject fails to focus on what is most important: having a personalized, meaningful funeral that helps families and friends begin mourning after the death of someone they love.
In addition to the information contained in this website, a list of recommended reading is provided below to help you understand your choices and allow you to plan the most meaningful funeral for your loved one.
Dr. Alan Wolfelt- Wolfelt, Alan, Creating Meaningful Funeral Ceremonies: A Guide for Caregivers, Fort Collins, Colorado: Companion Press, 2011
- Wolfelt, Alan,Creating Meaningful Funeral Ceremonies: A Guide for Families, Fort Collins, Colorado: Companion Press, 2011
- Wolfelt, Alan, The Journey through Grief: Reflections on Healing, Fort Collins, Colorado: Companion Press, 1996
- Wolfelt, Alan, Understanding Your Grief: Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart, Fort Collins, Colorado: Companion Press, 2003
Other Authors
- Fulghum, Robert, From Beginning to End: The Rituals of Our Lives, New York: Villard Books, 1995
- Long, Thomas G., Accompany Them With Singing: The Christian Funeral, Louisville, Kentucky: Westminster John Knox Press, 2009
- Metrick, S.B., Crossing the Bridge: Creating Ceremonies for Grieving and Healing from Life#8217;s Losses, Berkeley: Celestial Arts, 1994
- Noel, Brook and Pamela Blair, Ph.D., I Wasn#8217;t Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One, Milwaukee: Champion Press, 2008
- York, Sarah, Remembering Well: Rituals for Celebrating Life and Mourning Death, San Francisco: Jossey Bass, 2000
Recommended Links
Someone you loved has died. You are beginning a journey that is often frightening, painful and sometimes lonely. No words, written or spoken, can take away the pain you now feel.
The following organizations are additional sources of information, education and referral that may bring you some comfort and encouragement as you make a commitment to help yourself heal.
Funerals and Related Matters - National Organizations and Support Resources
- International Cemetery, Cremation & Funeral Association - http://www.iccfa.com
- Cremation Association of North America - info@cremationsassociations.org
- International Order of the Golden Rule - info@ogr.org
- National Funeral Directors Association - http://www.nfda.org
- Selected Independent Funeral Homes - http://www.selectedfuneralhomes.org
- Funeral Service Association of Canada - http://www.fsac.ca
National Self-Help Organizations and Support Groups
- AARP, Widowed Person's Services - http://www.aarp.org
Independent branches of this organization can be found by searching online for Widowed Persons Services and the name of your town and state. - American Association of Suicidology - http://suicidology.org
Information and resources; referrals to suicide survivor groups - Center for Loss and Life Transition - http://centerforloss.com
Resources, education and training, and referral for bereaved families; provides certificate program in Death and Grief studies for bereavement professionals - The Compassionate Friends - http://www.compassionatefriends.org
Information and resources for bereaved families who have experienced the death of a child - The Dougy Center - http://www.dougy.org
Information, education, referral and support for children and families; publishes a national directory of support programs for bereaved children - Share - http://nationalshare.org
Pregnancy and infant loss support - Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD) - http://www.MADD.org
Education, resources and advocacy for bereaved families - Parents of Murdered Children, Inc - http://www.pomc.com
Information, resources and support for bereaved families - National Hospice and Palliative Care - http://www.nhpco.org
- National Institute of Mental Health Public Inquiries - http://www.nimh.nih.gov
Education and publications for families and professionals
Pre-Planning
Life Choices
Most of us plan ahead in life. We plan for our wedding, our children's education, family vacations, and other significant expected life events. We also plan for the unexpected events of life by purchasing home, auto and medical insurance.Understanding the benefits of pre-planning has prompted many to take the step to pre-plan their own arrangements.
Please call us at 907-283-3333 to set up an appointment to discuss pre-planning with a caring professional.
Why Pre-Plan?
Peace of MindMany who have undergone the emotional strain of arranging a funeral within hours of losing a loved one have made the choice to pre-plan their own funeral. Doing so lifts the burden from their loved ones by relieving decision-making pressure at a time of grief and emotional stress.
Personal Choice
Funeral arrangements are a deeply personal choice. Pre-planning provides you with the time needed to make practical, detailed decisions that reflect your standards, lifestyle, taste and budget. And we assure you and your family that the choices you make will be carried out as planned.
Lower Costs
When you finalize your plan, we can advise you of the total cost. You do not have to set aside funds for your plan, but doing so protects you against escalating funeral costs. By locking in today's funeral costs and ensuring that the necessary funds are set aside, you help relieve yourself of unnecessary future worry and your survivors of an unexpected expense.
Immediate Arrangements
In Time of Need
We understand that making the many decisions which come at a time of loss can be difficult. We offer our support by providing you with options as you consider making immediate arrangements.
Please call us at 907-283-3333 to make arrangements in person with a caring, professional Funeral Director.
Grief Support
Welcome to the Griefwords Online Library
Brought to you by the Center for Loss and Life Transition - Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D., Director
Helping Others with Grief
A friend has experienced the death of someone loved. How can you help? The following articles provide many practical suggestions for helping others with grief:
Helping a Friend in Grief
Helping a Grandparent Who is Grieving
Helping a Grieving Friend in the Workplace
Helping a Suicide Survivor Heal
Helping Your Family When a Member is Dying
Helping Yourself with Grief
Someone you love has died. You are now faced with the difficult, but important, need to mourn. Mourning is the open expression of your thoughts and feelings regarding the death and the person who died. It is an essential part of healing. The following articles provide many practical suggestions to help you move toward healing in your unique grief journey.
Mustering the Courage to Mourn
Love and Grief:
In Communion and Greater Than the Sum of Their Parts
Helping Yourself Heal When Someone Loved Dies
Will I Befriend My Feelings Or Will I Deny, Repress, Or Inhibit Them?
Helping Yourself Heal When Your Spouse Dies
Helping Yourself Heal When Your Child Dies
Helping Yourself Heal When Your Parent Dies
Helping Yourself Heal When a Baby Dies
Helping Yourself Heal During the Holiday Season
For and About Grieving Children and Teenagers
Children and teenagers have special needs following the death of a friend or family member. The following articles provide wonderful insight in helping children and teens understand and express their grief.
How to Talk to the Children and Teens in Your Life About the Newtown, CT Tragedy
Helping Infants and Toddlers Cope with Grief
Helping Children Cope With Grief
Helping Children with Funerals
Helping Teenagers Cope with Grief
Recommended Links
Someone you loved has died. You are beginning a journey that is often frightening, painful and sometimes lonely. No words, written or spoken, can take away the pain you now feel.
The following organizations are additional sources of information, education and referral that may bring you some comfort and encouragement as you make a commitment to help yourself heal.
Funerals and Related Matters - National Organizations and Support Resources
- International Cemetery, Cremation & Funeral Association - http://www.iccfa.com
- Cremation Association of North America - info@cremationsassociations.org
- International Order of the Golden Rule - info@ogr.org
- National Funeral Directors Association - http://www.nfda.org
- Selected Independent Funeral Homes - http://www.selectedfuneralhomes.org
- Funeral Service Association of Canada - http://www.fsac.ca
National Self-Help Organizations and Support Groups
- AARP, Widowed Person's Services - http://www.aarp.org
Independent branches of this organization can be found by searching online for Widowed Persons Services and the name of your town and state. - American Association of Suicidology - http://suicidology.org
Information and resources; referrals to suicide survivor groups - Center for Loss and Life Transition - http://centerforloss.com
Resources, education and training, and referral for bereaved families; provides certificate program in Death and Grief studies for bereavement professionals - The Compassionate Friends - http://www.compassionatefriends.org
Information and resources for bereaved families who have experienced the death of a child - The Dougy Center - http://www.dougy.org
Information, education, referral and support for children and families; publishes a national directory of support programs for bereaved children - Share - http://nationalshare.org
Pregnancy and infant loss support - Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD) - http://www.MADD.org
Education, resources and advocacy for bereaved families - Parents of Murdered Children, Inc - http://www.pomc.com
Information, resources and support for bereaved families - National Hospice and Palliative Care - http://www.nhpco.org
- National Institute of Mental Health Public Inquiries - http://www.nimh.nih.gov
Education and publications for families and professionals
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Kenai, AK 99611
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